This post, written by Lianne Avila, was originally featured on YourTango.
You wonder if you did the right thing.
Let’s face it, raising and helping your kids through divorce isn’t easy. You constantly worry about how to be a good parent and how your breakup will affect them, so you often wonder if you did the right thing. And coparenting is not a walk in the park.
Children of divorce may experience a broken heart due to their parents’ breakup. Try to remain positive, and remember that with the right parenting tips and advice, you can still be an amazing parent after a divorce.
The divorce rate is nearly 50 percent. This means, you aren’t alone, and you aren’t ruining your kids’ lives. As a matter of fact, studies show kids growing up in a high conflict home are actually more unhappy than kids of divorce.
If you strive to put your kids first, then you can actually learn to be a better parent. It’s not always going to be easy, especially in the beginning. The good news is you can work through it.
Here are 21 tips that can help you be an amazing parent after a divorce:
- Be honest with your kids: Make sure it is appropriate for their age. Lies will catch up and make things worse, in the long run.
- Don’t bad-mouth the other parent: It’s important to model good behavior for your children by getting along with your ex.
- Never use your kids as a weapon: Don’t ask your children to spy on your ex and report back their every move. This will make your child feel uncomfortable and like they are betraying the other parent.
- Don’t give your kids the guilt trip: Let them make their own decisions. You may not like that your child wants to go on vacation with the other parent. But when you are divorced, this is the reality of the situation.
- Be consistent with everything you do: The kids are living in two different households. Make sure they have a routine that is consistent. That way they will know what to expect.
- Communicate with your ex: I know this may sound impossible, but it’s one of the best things you can do. Let…